Sunday, October 9, 2016

Our first foster care placement

     So things are progressing in a very unique manner with our very first foster care placement.  They are with a family member who is considered 'safe' but needs some help with their care.  So we are in a 'getting to know you' phase.  The 2 year old, who I will call Minnie for the sake of the blog, and her brother, Super Man, came on Friday and stayed for 24 hours.  Then they went back home to their family member.

     The visit went well over all.  Super Man and I had to come to an understanding about things... for example, I was told that he will take off running from his family member.  So we were on high alert, and sure enough, when my Little Man opened the back gate to go get a ball that went over the fence, he saw his chance and tried to take off.  Thankfully, Hubby and I were both there and caught him VERY quickly.  I promptly took Super Man inside and placed him on a chair.  He cried for about 15 seconds; I was then able to explain that if he can't be safe outside, he won't play outside.  After a couple of minutes, I asked if he would like to try and be safe outside.  He nodded and we went back outside.  We didn't have any problems after that.  Even at Little Man's soccer game, he stayed right with us (it might have helped that I explained that we would sit in the car if he couldn't stay with us and be safe at soccer).

Minnie had no problems at all.  She was the easiest 2 year old ever!  And because she doesn't get naps at her home, she was asleep within seconds once we put her to bed - score!

Of course, Super Man took over an hour to go to bed.... but Little Man has trained me well and taught me a thing or two about stalling.  So I knew not to give him any leverage that could be used against me, like: "you gave a drink last time I spent the night!"
He first tried asking for food: NO (he had JUST eaten a snack before bed, so I am not depriving him ;)
He then asked for water: NO
He then asked me to leave the room, as he is reaching for a toy: BIG NO!
He then asked me to scoot over (probably so he can make a run past me to the door: NO
Turn on the music
Turn off the music
Move the fan over here
Move my clock over there
I want to lay on the floor!

He finally fell asleep with his pillow on the floor directly in front of the fan.

They've got some things we will be working on when they are more permanently with us, as in, not going back and forth from here back to family.
1. potty training, they both wear diapers
2. drinking out of open cups.  They both came with sippy cups
3. getting Super Man into speech therapy
4. sharing/not snatching toys from other people
5.  listening when a grown up says 'come' or 'give me that'
6. getting to the dentist.  Super Man had no idea what a dentist did...

stay tuned.  Currently, we have no idea when they will be back.  I am guessing within a week.

Sunday, September 25, 2016

Probably. Maybe.

On Friday, I received a call for a foster care placement: a two year old and a four year old set of siblings. I said 'I' because Hubby was at work. So naturally, I took the information from our agency and told them I'd get back with them. Their reply, 'It's not an emergency. Talk it over, email us, and we will talk more on Monday.'

So I texted Hubby to call me. He did and we decided to say 'yes.'  So, right away I email the agency, hoping they might get back with me before the end of the work day. They didn't...

So that's where we are. They are probably coming. Maybe. 

Of course, waiting is hard and I don't have any clothes for a two year old. So I might have gone to a sale and bought some clothes....

Thursday, August 11, 2016

Support from family and friends

This whole foster care thing would be a lot more difficult without the support of family and friends. Of course there are those people that give a little, "oh..." when I tell them our plans to foster. But we are confident that this is where God has led our family.  So I just let their doubts roll off my shoulder. I am past worrying about what others think!

I am much more interested in the people who are willing to support us.  So to that end, I want to give a shout out of thanks to those who have helped us obtain STUFF! (And of course, a shout out to those who have emotionally supported us as well like my mom, who checks every day to see how we are -and others:)

Spirited One has a best friend who is also home schooled.  Their whole family has turned into such a blessing to us!  We enjoy spending time with them-sharing life together. They were getting new bunk beds and graciously gifted us their bunk beds and mattresses. They even brought them over and helped assemble them in Little Man's room!  Thanks guys!

We have another family that we have been getting to know better in the past several months.  They are home schoolers AND a foster family!  They are a bit further into the foster care journey and have had their foster daughter since December.  Its nice to have someone to ask questions to and who will understand the ups and downs that we will undoubtedly go through.  This family was nice enough to give us an infant car seat, base and a crib with mattress and sheets.

And my father in law also gifted us with 2 twin mattresses that he was getting rid of.  So we are definitely doing well in the bedding situation!  LOL.

The funny thing is, even though we have a plethora of beds and frames, the kids have decided to change up the sleeping arrangements.  They prefer to have the mattresses on the floor and sleep in the same room.  So its comical to see the bunk bed and two additional mattresses on the floor next to it.  I will have to take a picture eventually for you to see!

They won't be able to share rooms when we get a placement... unless they share a room and the foster child is in the other room... so the room situation is bound to change eventually.  But for right now, its working and everyone is happy.  So I am going with the flow for the moment.

Sunday, July 10, 2016

waiting to foster

Waiting... then more waiting....

Can't say its my forte.  At least when you are pregnant, you have a due date.  You know within days (or if you are early or late, weeks) when your child will arrive.

When you are preparing to do foster care, there is no due date.  Only waiting.  Waiting to take the next class.  Waiting to see if all of the paperwork is correct.  Waiting to see if you pass the fire inspection. And on and on.  And now, waiting for someone to get back from vacation to sign our papers so it can be sent to the state.

And after that?  More waiting.  Waiting for a phone call  to see if we can take a little one.

And there is only so much preparation one can do.  Hubby said I was nesting.  And for a while, I was.  Cleaning things, organizing closets, etc.  But all that has stopped.  Why?  Because I have no idea if I am preparing for an infant or a 5 year old.  Or anything in between.  That's hard to prepare for!

So instead of buying outfits in every size.  I'll just wait.  But when he/she/they get here: shopping spree!

Tuesday, July 5, 2016

A timeline of foster care licensing

Surprise!  For those of you who didn't know, our family has answered God's call to step into foster care.  I won't get into the why's (other than: why not?)  But today, I am laying out the timeline for how long it has taken to get our license.

January 2016
Take 3 out of 4 pre-service classes and turn in our application.  Due to an unexpected babysitting dilemma, we had to postpone the final class.

Take final pre-service class.  Hubby gets the stomach bug and we find a hotel to stay the night instead of driving 2 hours to go pick up the kiddos.

May 11
Mail in packet of required paperwork.

May 16
Receive phone call that some paper work is missing, including the application (which we had turned in at the January pre-service...)

May 17
Re-do the application and fax it.

June 24
Home study #1.  The questions didn't get too personal and the kids didn't say anything crazy!  Whew!

June 28
Home study #2

July 5
We were informed that the agency needs proof of our homeschooling notification from the local school district.  Forwarded agency email that we had from the district.

July 7
Asked for a copy of last years taxes and our address from 10 years ago

And now.... we wait....

Our license SHOULD be complete by the end of the week.  And then a phone call could come at any time.

July 13
Received email that we are OFFICIALLY LICENSED to be foster parents!

July 21
Received phone call asking us to take 3 sisters age 1,2 and 3.  Had to turn them down.  We only have room for 2 additional car seats in our car.

August 5
Received phone call asking us to take 3 kids, the oldest being 7 years old.  Kindly reminded agency that we don't have enough seat belts for 3 more kids.

October 7
Our first placement, pre-placement actually.